I have never been a feminine type when I was a kid. Pretty rough kid and tomboy type if you must say. I had a picture of me as a baby carrying a doll, but I don’t have any recollections whatsoever of owning one or caring about dolls. I don’t remember much of it, but I recalled when Mom was upset watching me choose to bike with the boys instead of playing cooking with other girls.
At junior high I have choosen taekwondo instead of dance class. Joined rock climbing and search and rescue team in high school instead of Palang Merah Remaja (Medical Assistant/ Nurse for high school). I was always the best buddy of a guy I have a crush on and never tell them what I feel in college. Cheerleaders bugged me. Maybe because I want to be one but hated the attention, who knows.
The reason I said this because I fear that I don’t have enough knowledge about girly stuff or girly experience to teach, play and share with Sam. I fear that I am not girly enough to understand her when the time comes. The time when a frustrated teenage girl needing advice that I cannot give. I am afraid to think I am the only mother on earth that think dolls are creepy. I will feel incredibly awfull if I don’t have the patience to sit and play Barbie or dress ups. I still can’t figure out what's the fun of doing those stuff. Hopefully it will grow on me as Sam grows; without influence her, what to like or not to like. So help me God.
3 comments:
Don't worry it grows on you. Someone gives her her first doll and it is all downhill from there. It doesn't have to be super girly either. Emily loves her dolls and the occasional game of dress up, but as we speak she is playing a huge game of cars all over the floor. And she often chooses bike riding or playing soccer over the girl stuff.
And we've just flat outlawed Barbies in this house. There is no way you could pay me enough to sit on the floor and play with badly proportioned dolls that spend most of their time naked. So no Barbies here, and everyone is fine with that =)
I personally think the girls who like to ride bikes and climb trees are more fun than the Barbie sort anyway. Give me a bike any day! And just for the record. . . . I never liked cheerleaders either =)
Oh, Don't worry. You will do great job. As a tomboy myself when I was little, I became a pretty good woman after. If Sam is a girly girl, you will do great, if she is a tomboy too, you will do as great. No worries, mate!
Thanks y'all. I appreciate it. I know I am a good Mother. But somehow I always feel bad when I watched them sleeping. Like I could do so much more for them. I can't explain why. But again, I am a walking hormones right now. So, thanks.
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